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Why Am I Like This?

Break Your Relationship Patterns and Create the Life You Want

Sabrina Zohar, Ramani Durvasula - introduction PhD

Written by
Sabrina Zohar, Ramani Durvasula - introduction PhD
Read by
Sabrina Zohar, Ramani Durvasula PhD
Length
7 hrs 34 min
Rating
4.8 / 5
Publisher
Penguin Audio
Released
2026-10-13

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What it is

From the popular dating and relationship coach and host of The Sabrina Zohar Show comes a no-BS roadmap to rewriting the patterns that are hijacking your love life—so you can finally create the love you deserve.

Why does one text send me spiraling for days? Why do I apologize even when it's not my fault? Why do I need everyone to like me?

Why am I like this?

If this sounds like you, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. These frustrating patterns of people-pleasing, questioning your worth, avoidance, or reactivity—what Sabrina Zohar calls your Bullshit Blueprint—are actually survival strategies your body learned to keep you safe. But as she reveals, they're also keeping you from the things you truly want.

With her signature unfiltered advice rooted in psychology, neuroscience, and nervous system work, Why Am I Like This? shows you how to create a new, BS-free blueprint for love and life, one based on self-trust and conscious choice instead of outdated patterns of behavior.

But you can’t dismantle what you don’t understand. Sharing stories from her coaching work and own, raw journey of unraveling and rebuilding, Sabrina walks you step-by-step through the process of rewiring the unconscious programming that’s keeping you stuck, including:

How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs form your unique Bullshit BlueprintThe four survival responses and how they secretly drive your behaviorHow to break the toxic cycles of feeling “too much,” “not enough,” or impossible to loveWhy the dating myths we’ve been taught are actually making us reject people who could be good for usPractical tools to regulate your emotions, set boundaries, and finally choose yourself Sabrina doesn’t just give you tools, she gives it to you straight: You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself. You can stop repeating the past and start showing up more authentically and consciously in your relationships. Watch how that changes everything.

* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF containing the Your Blueprint Reference Guide from the book.

On the charts

Last charted October 19, 2026. Its best position was 2 on Bestsellers in Personal Development, reached October 10, 2026. Seen on 8 charts over 42 days of readings, the first on August 28, 2026.

1 20 2 September 8, 2026 October 16, 2026 September 8, 2026 — position 20September 22, 2026 — position 13September 23, 2026 — position 18September 24, 2026 — position 18September 25, 2026 — position 20September 26, 2026 — position 20September 27, 2026 — position 17September 28, 2026 — position 18September 29, 2026 — position 19October 2, 2026 — position 17October 3, 2026 — position 12October 4, 2026 — position 12October 5, 2026 — position 11October 6, 2026 — position 10October 7, 2026 — position 13October 8, 2026 — position 16October 9, 2026 — position 7October 10, 2026 — position 2October 11, 2026 — position 3October 12, 2026 — position 4October 13, 2026 — position 3October 14, 2026 — position 4October 15, 2026 — position 3October 16, 2026 — position 12
Bestsellers in Personal Development — position by day.
ChartBestDaysLast seen
Personal Development
Bestsellers 2 24 days October 16, 2026
Apple Books 2 6 days October 19, 2026
New releases 2 4 days October 16, 2026
Health & Wellness
Apple Books 2 6 days October 19, 2026
Bestsellers 3 38 days October 16, 2026
New releases 3 7 days October 19, 2026
All audiobooks
Coming soon 7 2 days September 12, 2026
Apple Books 70 4 days October 17, 2026

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